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    Unity is a Choice…….

    We were born with no choices. We weren’t able to choose to be American, African, Asian, or any other nationality. We didn’t have the choice of hair, eye, or skin color. We couldn’t decide what sex we would be. We were just born how we were with what was given to us. As we grow, we get choices. We decide what we like and don’t like. We choose how we live our lives. We choose to attend school and be educated. We choose what job we will do for a living. We choose where we will live. Of course, life alters plans and we do what we can at where…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……

    Dear Toni, I’m so tired of working everyday to go nowhere. I can barely get by and I’m tired of scraping and working so hard. I just need a break. Any suggestions? T Dear T~ You may not like my response to this but ….. work! That’s all you can do. We need to work to survive and at time we are JUST surviving! It’s tough. Many people who make it big worked hard to get there. Many were below survival at the time. JK Rowling, who wrote the Harry Potter series, was broke, a single mom, and contemplating suicide. Now a billionaire. To make it more simple, a friend’s…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……

    Dear Toni, I want to move to a different state for better career advancement. My family is shocked that I even want to move away from them and are calling me selfish. I now have some family members mad at me and I haven’t even left yet. This is my life and I now feel at a crossroad and I’m not sure what to do. Suggestions? Thank you in advance, S Dear S, One thing I do want to point out that you said is that it is YOUR life. You are the only one who lives your life. You have to make decisions that work for YOU. Of course,…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……..

    Dear Toni, I love my friend and we have been friends for a long time. When we go out she always wants to go to bars and dance and hit on guys. If she finds a guy then he dumps her soon after. I am getting tired of it and trying to grow up and be a responsible adult and focus on work and paying bills. How do I get her to stop this? I don’t want to lose our fiendship. Help. H Dear H~ i would like to commend you on focusing on work and paying bills. This will be something we do the rest of our lives to…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……

      Dear Toni, I have been having a hard time with social media. It’s like our lives are based on it. How many likes we get. How many friends we have. How many events we are invited to. Our relationship status. Our meme on our pics. Everything! It’s so hard to keep up. I feel like I waste all my time trying to fit it on social media. It’s so much to keep up with and a lot of pressure. You don’t fit in if you aren’t in with it. I have lost some friends because of it and I’m starting to get depressed. I’m not sure what to do…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday…….

    Dear Toni, I have been passed up for a promotion two times now. I know I am doing a good job because my evaluations are always great. I don’t know why I keep getting passed. I am trying to stay positive but it is hard. How can I stay motivated to keep going? If I get passed up one more time I think it would devastate me. Thank you. Signed, W Dear W~ I am sorry you did not get promoted. That’s tough. I have been there a couple of times and it hurts. There are a couple of suggestions I have on this. The first one is to know…

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    Put your name on it!

    Customer service, patient care, hospitality, and anything having to do with the association of people is lacking! Can we agree that a good word and a hand shake don’t much exist anymore? Back in the day it was everything. If you broke that trust there was hell to pay. Now, if you break that trust it’s a lawsuit and social media bashing but it’s such the norm now a days it means nothing. What a shame! So many people want a paycheck but don’t want to put in the work to get it. They put in just enough to get their money and have a weekend. As long as the work is…

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    Fall is the time for change………..

    Summer is on it’s way out and fall is just around the corner. Change is everywhere right now. Kids are going back to school and meeting new friends. We will be spending more time indoors. Snowbirds are making plans to head out. Flip flops are traded for socks and boots. Football season is here and holidays will be soon upon us. The change of season is here. It is also the time where the warm air turns colder. The greens leaves turn color and start to fall. The lively life of summer months now prepares for the winter slumber. The world of nature around us quiets down, unwinds, and starts…

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    Take time to self reflect………

    Life can be so busy. We are running here, running there, and still trying to manage everything else. We have hardly any time to think let alone reflect on our life. I am not talking about thinking about our life, I am talking about reflecting on your life. Really looking at your life and where you are in it. Something was brought to my attention that took me off guard. For many years I thought I had been clear letting people know how I feel about  them and certain things. I thought that even if I didn’t agree with what they might do, I support them and will be there along…

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    Exciting new things coming…………….

    We are going to be making some changes this year and I am looking forward to them. Change can be good and things don’t improve if they always stay the same. I will be expanding my technical skills and trying new things, for example Podcasts. I will continue with my video blogs but maybe not have them weekly and change it to bi-weekly. I will be posting more on my website but not so much just motivational blogs, but everything blogs. What I am feeling I want to share, I will. It is real, it is me, and it is changing. I will be polite but I may say some…