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    Dear Toni Tuesday………

    Dear Toni, My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. He wants me to move in but it seems too soon. I do love him and I see us possibly getting married someday but I still have things I want to accomplish before jumping into a live in relationship. I feel bad because if I want to be with him the rest of my life, I don’t know what is stopping me. Advice? Thanks in advance. Truly, S Dear S, After years of jumping on decisions against my better judgement…. I now ask myself this question. Will I regret not doing it? If the answer is yes, I…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……

    Dear Toni, I want to move to a different state for better career advancement. My family is shocked that I even want to move away from them and are calling me selfish. I now have some family members mad at me and I haven’t even left yet. This is my life and I now feel at a crossroad and I’m not sure what to do. Suggestions? Thank you in advance, S Dear S, One thing I do want to point out that you said is that it is YOUR life. You are the only one who lives your life. You have to make decisions that work for YOU. Of course,…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……..

    Dear Toni, I love my friend and we have been friends for a long time. When we go out she always wants to go to bars and dance and hit on guys. If she finds a guy then he dumps her soon after. I am getting tired of it and trying to grow up and be a responsible adult and focus on work and paying bills. How do I get her to stop this? I don’t want to lose our fiendship. Help. H Dear H~ i would like to commend you on focusing on work and paying bills. This will be something we do the rest of our lives to…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday……

      Dear Toni, I have been having a hard time with social media. It’s like our lives are based on it. How many likes we get. How many friends we have. How many events we are invited to. Our relationship status. Our meme on our pics. Everything! It’s so hard to keep up. I feel like I waste all my time trying to fit it on social media. It’s so much to keep up with and a lot of pressure. You don’t fit in if you aren’t in with it. I have lost some friends because of it and I’m starting to get depressed. I’m not sure what to do…

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    Dear Toni Tuesday…….

    Dear Toni, I have been passed up for a promotion two times now. I know I am doing a good job because my evaluations are always great. I don’t know why I keep getting passed. I am trying to stay positive but it is hard. How can I stay motivated to keep going? If I get passed up one more time I think it would devastate me. Thank you. Signed, W Dear W~ I am sorry you did not get promoted. That’s tough. I have been there a couple of times and it hurts. There are a couple of suggestions I have on this. The first one is to know…

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    It’s OK to say good-bye to more than just a year….

    Another year has been left in the past. We move forward to the new year and leave everything behind but memories. Some are good, some are bad. Some are happy, some are sad. Some are fabulous, some we wish didn’t happen. No year is perfect but some are pretty darn close. It seems as we get older, we appreciate our years. We also appreciate friendship and family even more. Drama gets a side kick and peace moves in. We grow into life teachers and get to a place where little things have more value of good and less stress. When each year passes we leave something behind. Pieces of us…

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    Don’t make New Year’s Resolutions…….

    It is that time of the year again! Time to sit down and write your New Year’s Resolutions. Most of us write down two or three. And most of us write down the same ones we did last year, and the year before that. Most of us do not stick to our resolutions. I don’t believe it is necessarily not having the “will power”, but with a resolution, once you break it, it is over. If you make a resolution you are making a firm decision to do or not to do something. When you write these down, you are making a firm decision that on January 1 you will…

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    Put your name on it!

    Customer service, patient care, hospitality, and anything having to do with the association of people is lacking! Can we agree that a good word and a hand shake don’t much exist anymore? Back in the day it was everything. If you broke that trust there was hell to pay. Now, if you break that trust it’s a lawsuit and social media bashing but it’s such the norm now a days it means nothing. What a shame! So many people want a paycheck but don’t want to put in the work to get it. They put in just enough to get their money and have a weekend. As long as the work is…

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    Don’t feed the negative….. be the twist!

    Negative, negative, negative!!!! We see it everyday, throughout the day. In social media, news threads, news broadcasts, sitcoms, comedy…… everywhere! You just can’t seem to get away from it. I have had a few friends taking breaks from social media because of it. I see tweets that start arguments. I see Facebook posts ending friendships. It’s absolutely out of control. Or is it? I will admit I have been drawn into the negative here and there. I have had my share of being unfriended. Not because I was being really negative but I was sharing what others didn’t want to hear. I am still hurt over a loss that happened…